4 Empowering Tips To Give Women A Better Outlook And Greater Self-Esteem
“At times I felt sick, broken, powerless, hopeless, and helpless,” Zarse says. “I didn’t love myself and, because of my distorted ego, didn’t even know it.”
For Zarse, it was religious faith that eventually helped her begin to believe in herself. She says everyone whose life has gotten off track and who has lost faith in themselves can find a way to turn things around.
“We can all start over,” Zarse says. “It’s possible for every one of us to live a higher life – one with self-love, self-esteem, self-respect, dignity, integrity and compassion.”
She suggests four ways women can empower themselves, improving their self-esteem and outlook on life in the bargain:
- Don’t let anybody steal your crown. It’s easy to let what others say about you color your view of yourself. Zarse warns that your happiness shouldn’t be dependent on what others think. “Your worth does not decrease because somebody else can’t see it,” she says. “Your worth resides in your internal power and nobody can take it away from you without your permission.”
- Stay at peace. Every hour spent angry or worrying is a wasted hour. Stop allowing yourself to be upset. “Being mad at someone doesn’t make them change and it’s a complete waste of your valuable time,” Zarse says. Worrying is also unnecessary and futile.
- Count your blessings. No matter how bad things may seem, everyone has something to be grateful for. Be grateful for who you are and what you have. Also, don’t compare yourself to others, Zarse says. Comparison will frustrate you and adds no value to your life. You are on your own unique journey, so be grateful for it and enjoy the ride.
- Forget about yourself and start thinking of others. This is a definitive way to snap out of debilitating self-pity. The more you do for others the happier you will be. Make a decision to be helpful and this will drastically change the way you feel about yourself and life in general.
“Negativity will cripple us if we let it,” Zarse says. “We all need to trade grumbling for gratitude and complaining for thankfulness. To me, everybody has something to be happy about.”
About Jane Zarse
Jane Zarse grew up in the private school world of privilege and excess as she spiraled into alcoholism before joining Alcoholics Anonymous and finding her way back. In “Love and Compassion Is My Religion” (www.loveandcompassionismyreligion.com), she writes about learning to love herself again and how finding spirituality helped her do so.